Spacey, Lambert, and does it matter?

Today’s opening clarifications:

1.       I think Kevin Spacey is an amazingly talented actor. His performances in “Glengarry,…” “Usual Suspects” and “American Beauty” were so good that I can forgive him for “Men Who Stare at Goats.”

2.       I do not think that Adam Lambert is all that talented, and I don’t care much for his music. His shrill can drive me up the wall. But that’s just me.

So who cares if Adam Lambert and Kevin Spacey are gay?

Someone recently asked me, “Did you think that Kevin Spacey is gay.” Actually, I haven’t thought it about it - at all. I guess that with the release of his new movie, the question is making headlines. I don’t think Spacey confirmed or denied it. I believe he is being conspicuously quiet about it, which only fuels the rumors.

I remember after he failed to take home the crown of “American Idol” Adam Lambert confirmed the rumors he is gay. It made headlines all over the place. You couldn’t escape the story.

I was not surprised by Lambert’s declaration. I wouldn’t be surprised if Spacey eventually announced the same. What surprises me is that this is news. Would it be news if I announced “I’m bald?” It’s as much of who I am as my heterosexuality, but neither will define me (I hope). I think it’s sad that our media chooses to make this headline news, and that our society chooses to buy it.

But then I am not gay, and I have no idea what it’s like to live the life of a gay man. I suspect it’s difficult. Probably very difficult. I suspect that as more celebrities come out, it slowly becomes less difficult. But that sad part is that I even have to think about it to realize this conclusion.

The question – am I missing something?